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Infertility Prayer: 2 Week Wait

The Two Week Wait

I am right smack in the middle of the dreaded two week wait. This morning I woke up with a song in my head, not unusual for me. I know a lot of songs, mostly love songs. Lol What was out of the ordinary was the particular song I was singing.

My 96 1/2 grandmother died in January. She was a bird, and my hero. Often she would break out singing old hymns. This particular song was one of her favorites.

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Infertility Prayer

“It’s me, it’s me oh Lord. Standing in the need of prayer. It’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.

Not my mother, not my sister, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer. It’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.”

If that doesn’t represent what I’m feeling in the two week wait, I don’t know what does. Trying to conceive can be difficult. And I often wonder, “Where are you God.” This song just sums it up. It’s me, God. Just waiting to get pregnant.

What is your infertility prayer during the two week wait?

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TTC Pitfalls

If you are like most women, when you first decide that you want to get pregnant, you are excited, bubbling with excess energy that in many ways pushes you to think ahead to all the things that come with babies.

Baby Showers, cribs, baby names, diapers, pregnancy-the list could go on and on. Then you make it through the first couple of months and start wondering when it is going to happen. Did I mention the little fact that as soon as you get the go ahead to try, you’ve already begun searching the net; looking for any information out there?

Does this sound familiar?

Thought so. Yes, trying to conceive does come with its pitfalls, or obsessions I should say.

Think Positive

As with any challenge, keeping your eye on the goal is my first little piece of advice-yes, even if you have to remind yourselves fifty times a day. It is worth it! Repeat this as many times as needed. No matter what little phrase you need, find one, it will help. Of course, it does need to be uplifting.

Let yourself Cry

Tears. What are those little pesky things that tend to pop up? Yes, those who are TTC are familiar with the fact that crying comes with the business. Around every cycle, there are always those few days that it is inevitable to sniffle once or twice. That is, unless you got your BFP (Big Fat Positive!)

If so, you can stop reading and start telling us how you did it.

Make your List

That’s right, make that list. What list you ask? You need to decide how you are going to change your life. Yep, it is inevitable, might as well start right from the start. No caffeine, lots of veggies, vitamins, exercise, water, no smoking… the list could go on and on. For each of us, what we need to do to make our life pregnancy ready is different. The key is finding those things that will help your body and making the changes.

Failure

I hate this word but with it comes success. We all will have months that are Positive, but if we can accept this, it will make the journey much easier. So accept the fact that it may not happen overnight. If it does, you are a success story. Enjoy the process, every step, every cycle.

Confessions of a Woman Struggling with Infertility

Infertility Stinks!

We hear of people struggling with infertility all the time. They can’t get pregnant. They’ve tried without success to have a baby. Maybe they just got married and thought pregnancy would naturally happen. When it didn’t, worry sets in. Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve been married for years and just decided the time was right. Only when you start trying, nothing happened. Or maybe you’ve been trying for years without success.Did you know that infertility dates back to the Bible with stories such as Hannah, Sarah, Elizabeth, and Rachel? These stories are reminders to each one struggling with infertility that they aren’t alone. Only women struggling with infertility know how alone it feels. That deep grief that won’t go away.

Learning to cope with infertility doesn’t happen overnight. It is a daily, hourly, and sometimes down to the minute before we can actually take a breath and breathe. Only someone who’s gone through the inability to conceive can possibly understand what this is like. Oh, I know, people think they understand, but you can’t. It simply isn’t possible.

Confessions from someone who knows…

Pregnant Women

They are everywhere. You know what I mean. Everywhere you turn there is a pregnant woman. They seem to be following us everywhere we go. They can’t understand that deep hollow we feel in the pit of our stomachs every time we see them.

The Timing isn’t right.

Ever heard that one? Or maybe something like this, “You just have to be patient.” Oh, how those words are a thorn to every woman struggling with infertility. Of course, we know to be patient. But then again, do you struggle with infertility? If not, don’t tell us about being patient because we could rewrite the definition of the word.

Babies, Babies, Babies

Where do all these babies come from? No matter how far we try to walk in the opposite direction, everyone we know seems to be getting pregnant. Could people please stop getting pregnant? “Thank you,” I say with relief.

If you just stop trying, you’ll get pregnant

Oh, how many times I’ve heard this. Don’t you think we’ve stopped trying just to see if this would work? Yeah, it doesn’t work. Thanks for your thoughts, but until you’ve experienced infertility; can you keep your unwanted wisdom to yourself?

Relax, you just need to relax!

Ever heard this one? If only we hadn’t thought of this. If it was just as simple as relaxing. As if a woman dealing with infertility hasn’t already researched ever possible method of getting pregnant and little did we know we just needed to relax.

Adoption is Your Answer!

This is one statement that is frequently said to couple struggling with infertility. As if we haven’t given adoption a serious consideration. Maybe you should consider the fact that we might not want to adopt, we want our own child. Or maybe we can’t afford to adopt. There could be many reasons why we haven’t adopted and none of them are because we haven’t considered the option of adopting.

Adoption for many is a last result that is an option that is possible. Even for these, the grief of not being able to conceive is a process that can only take time. Adoption is an option only the couple can decide if this choice is right for them.

You’re still Young!

I’m not that young and you don’t have a clue how, when, or if it will happen. Why are you giving me advice? Too many people think they are helping when they really don’t know what they are talking about. On subjects of infertility, people should understand that if we wanted to talk about it, we would.

Have you tried…?

This is the worst because people are assuming you haven’t already tried every possible method. Women struggling with infertility have done it all… and I mean all! The very question evokes frustration as we immediately think of every crazy thing we’ve ever done to get pregnant. Of course we tried… whatever you were going to suggest!

Each of us could list our own list of statements not to say to a woman dealing with infertility. The truth is that we know all too well the grief of not being able to conceive. We try crazy methods hoping that will be the one thing that gives that beautiful baby.

I hope that someone reads this and recognizes how desperately infertile women need others to have a little class when speaking to them. Think before you speak. Remember that not everyone can have children by snapping their fingers. Know that if she’s infertile, she’s tried everything. She is a pro at trying innovative positions to better help that little baby be created.

So thank you! Thank you for all your advice that you throw our way. Thank you for those seemingly helpful words of comfort you gave at the worst possible moments. May you remember when you’ve waited for something for years that hurt, grief, and frustration that we feel every day. Maybe then, you would understand what it is like to really struggle to conceive.