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Infertility Prayer: Day before Menstrual Cycle

Dear Lord,

Give me the grace to accept what I can’t change. Give me the courage to keep trying, even when I can’t see any reason to continue. Help me be at peace where I am, in this place. Let my eyes look ahead. Grant me faith to continue this journey. Give me rays of hope. God, I need a miracle.

If you are struggling with infertility, feel free to take this prayer, adapt it to your own.

Infertility Prayer: 2 Week Wait

The Two Week Wait

I am right smack in the middle of the dreaded two week wait. This morning I woke up with a song in my head, not unusual for me. I know a lot of songs, mostly love songs. Lol What was out of the ordinary was the particular song I was singing.

My 96 1/2 grandmother died in January. She was a bird, and my hero. Often she would break out singing old hymns. This particular song was one of her favorites.

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Infertility Prayer

“It’s me, it’s me oh Lord. Standing in the need of prayer. It’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.

Not my mother, not my sister, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer. It’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.”

If that doesn’t represent what I’m feeling in the two week wait, I don’t know what does. Trying to conceive can be difficult. And I often wonder, “Where are you God.” This song just sums it up. It’s me, God. Just waiting to get pregnant.

What is your infertility prayer during the two week wait?

TTC Pitfalls

If you are like most women, when you first decide that you want to get pregnant, you are excited, bubbling with excess energy that in many ways pushes you to think ahead to all the things that come with babies.

Baby Showers, cribs, baby names, diapers, pregnancy-the list could go on and on. Then you make it through the first couple of months and start wondering when it is going to happen. Did I mention the little fact that as soon as you get the go ahead to try, you’ve already begun searching the net; looking for any information out there?

Does this sound familiar?

Thought so. Yes, trying to conceive does come with its pitfalls, or obsessions I should say.

Think Positive

As with any challenge, keeping your eye on the goal is my first little piece of advice-yes, even if you have to remind yourselves fifty times a day. It is worth it! Repeat this as many times as needed. No matter what little phrase you need, find one, it will help. Of course, it does need to be uplifting.

Let yourself Cry

Tears. What are those little pesky things that tend to pop up? Yes, those who are TTC are familiar with the fact that crying comes with the business. Around every cycle, there are always those few days that it is inevitable to sniffle once or twice. That is, unless you got your BFP (Big Fat Positive!)

If so, you can stop reading and start telling us how you did it.

Make your List

That’s right, make that list. What list you ask? You need to decide how you are going to change your life. Yep, it is inevitable, might as well start right from the start. No caffeine, lots of veggies, vitamins, exercise, water, no smoking… the list could go on and on. For each of us, what we need to do to make our life pregnancy ready is different. The key is finding those things that will help your body and making the changes.

Failure

I hate this word but with it comes success. We all will have months that are Positive, but if we can accept this, it will make the journey much easier. So accept the fact that it may not happen overnight. If it does, you are a success story. Enjoy the process, every step, every cycle.

Crazy Infertility Story #1

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done trying to get pregnant?

For me, I have several crazy infertility stories. Actually, I have many. But for now, let’s start with one story.

Today, I was driving and one of my infertility stories popped I my head. Yes, I hold no limits when trying to conceive. I will try just about anything.

Let’s start off by saying, I’ve done a lot of crazy things as I’ve tried to get pregnant. Some are so funny I don’t even know if I can post. Maybe one day…

I’m a little crazy. Yes, I’ve done tons of things in my quest to get pregnant. I’ve made my husband do crazy things. Am I crazy? Probably.

Infertility makes us do funny stuff.

Back to my crazy infertility story. So I found this website in my early quest to get pregnant. The woman on the website said she had helped hundreds of women get pregnant. She sounded like the real deal. Hundreds of women– That is amazing! At least, it sounded amazing.

Problem#1: There were NO reviews listed from those hundreds of women. Memo to ladies trying to get pregnant. If you are buying infertility products or remedies off of a website, make sure there are reviews from other women.

On with my infertility story.

I was so desperate. Have you ever been so desperate you would try anything, anything, for something to help you get pregnant?

I thought, if she said she could help me get pregnant, I was willing to pay the $89 she said it would cost. I was hopeful. I was encouraged. Maybe I too would get pregnant. Maybe it was finally my time.

I receive the package which should have everything I need to get pregnant.

Boy, was I wrong. Mind you, my cabinets was already full of herbs that help with fertility. I have a wide range of herbs for any one problem. So…. Whatever the mysterious infertility remedy was… It was going to be worth the money. I thought. Whatever the remedy was, it was so secret, she couldn’t post on the website. It had to be worth the money I just spent.

So… My infertility package arrived. Oh ladies, how wrong I was, that’s all I can say.

Inside the package was a big bottle of wheat germ and fish oil pills. That’s it. Nothing more.

No magical infertility remedy!!!!

As a bonus, there was a mini handkerchief meant to inspire those struggling with infertility. A handkerchief. I did not feel inspired.

Can I say “OH, boy.” I just spent $89 for fish oil pill & wheat germ pills. How foolish was I?

Now, wheat germ and fish oil are excellent to aid in fertility, but there was no magical infertility remedy in my box. No magic infertility cure.

After a few years of trying to conceive, I have realized that the woman was making a fortune without really helping women.

How could she know my infertility problems?

How could she send me a infertility cure without any information on my body, my history.. Simply put, I got duped.

The only conceivable way she had helper women is that their infertility problems could be fixed by taking fish oil or wheat germ. At least, that’s the only logical explanation I’ve come to…

“Oh boy.”What we do to try to get pregnant.

Moral of the story: Each woman struggles with different female issues. Know what infertility issues you have, because knowledge is power. The more you know, the easier it is to know which herbs can assist you in getting pregnant.

What’s your craziest infertility story?

Men’s Infertility Remedies: Top Tips to Help Men Be Fertile

Ten Tips to Help Men Be Fertile

The title almost sounds funny if you are just beginning your fertility journey. Why should men be fertile, or is there such a thing. The truth is that men and women both need to be fertile in order for you to become pregnant. It takes two, so we can all agree, we want our men to be fertile. If you’ve been doing all the work of getting your body fertile, slow down, because you aren’t alone. There are millions of men and women out there who are doing the same thing.It is important to work together with your spouse to make sure you are both fertile. The easiest way for the man to find out is by having his semen tested. Your doctor can recommend where to go. You can know almost within the day what his semen counts are. If he is fine, then you can focus totally on you. It is important to know every thing you can about your bodies, so this is really just another step in the process of conceiving.What is Infertility?

To start, let’s talk about infertility. Infertility occurs when you and your spouse have been trying to get pregnant for at least a year without success. For many couples, information can be important to discovering that they weren’t infertile; they just needed to learn more about their body, ovulation, and the steps top conceiving. Unfortunately, there are many who have been trying without success. My prayers go out to each of you.

Tips for Men to Stay Fertile

No Hot Tubs

It is a known fact that hot water can kill sperm. The best method is to refrain from really hot showers or baths. Nice cold showers are in your immediate future.

Protein

Protein can help grow healthy sperm. This is as good of an explanation for me to run out and get some protein shakes. *Wink* If your or your husband do not like protein drinks, just make sure to eat your daily supply of fresh fruits and vegetables.

Vitamins

Vitamins are vital to having healthy semen. Vitamins, such as beta-carotene, vitamin C, and vitamin E can benefit the men’s sperm under high oxidative stress.

Reduce Alcohol intake

If this isn’t possible, just try to drink more water daily. Alcohol isn’t good for men or women trying to get pregnant. To be honest, if you are trying or thinking about getting pregnant, it is best to drink alcohol less or or not at all. What we put in our bodies matters! The more you start learning about your body and what is good and bad for it, the more you realize alcohol won’t help you in your efforts to get pregnant.

As same as with the female body, it is important that the male drink plenty of water throughout the month. Not only will water flush out the system, but it is healthy to drink,

Don’t wear Confining Underwear

To be blunt, no tighty-whities. The less confined, the more breathing room the male has to expand his possibilities for fertility. Go out and by some boxers for maximum results. *smile*

Exercise

Trying to conceive is one of the most important parts in our lives. The journey we begin to having a little baby is a priceless journey.

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Endometriosis Home Remedy

My Endometriosis Home Remedy

If you’ve suffer from endometriosis, you’ve probably tried drugs and surgeries to find some kind of relief. Me too. Only problem, in my case, it came back. Let’s be clear. Endometriosis is painful and often times it is difficult to find any relief from the pain. For me, I refused to have any more surgeries. I refused birth control as I had terrible side effects.
What I found as a last resort was a more holistic approach. And boy do they work.. Natural cures are an easy way to find relief to ailments. You can save money and find quick relief by using to ailments such as endometriosis. It takes time, diligence, and time to figure out what works for your body, but it’s worth it,

What causes Endometriosis?

There is no known cause for endometriosis. This is difficult as women want to know why they’ve gotten endometriosis. Endometriosis can happen to any woman of reproductive age although endometriosis often times happen in infertile women.

What are Symptoms of Endometriosis?

Not all women who have endometriosis have symptoms. In fact, many women who have endometriosis do not even know they have endometriosis. Sadly, the most common symptoms of endometriosis are pelvic pain and infertility. Often times, women go to the doctor for these symptoms are caused from endometriosis. If your like me, you have every side effect known to man.

The pain can shift in intensity from month to month. Often with the menstrual cycle grows closer, the pain increases. With each woman, the level of pain will differ. Often, the doctor will tell the woman that she is the only one who knows how much pain she can take before looking for endometriosis relief. I agree. Some typical doctor responses are birth control or surgery.

Natural Relief from Endometriosis is the only solution that is cost effective. Not only can you save money but trying these methods before resorting to surgery can be beneficial to your body. For many women, birth control and surgery only temporary relieve the pain but the pelvic pain often comes back. Finding natural relief can elevate endometriosis completely!

Fertility Cleanse Natural Remedy

The Fertility Cleanse is focused to clean out any imbalances in the body and nourish the uterus, hormones and spirit. Although I was using the cleanse for fertility purposes, I quickly realized that all signs of endometriosis left after using this cleanse. After doing the cleanse once a year, I found an endometriosis treatment that didn’t include prescriptions and surgery. Now, I do the fertility cleanse once a year to ensure I keep the endometriosis away. This is by far, my top treatment for endometriosis. After years of endometriosis pain, I am now pain free.

Directions:

Follow the directions inside the box completely. The kit comes with Conception Tea, Liver Renew Capsules, Liver Cleanse Flushing Tea, Milk Thistle Seed Extract, and Women’s Best Friend Capsules. If you follow the instructions for the entire month, your body will be cleanse and hopefully you will feel the results.

Fish Natural Remedy

Fish has omega-3 fatty acids that known to suppress the prostaglandin production. If you don’t like fish, you can buy the fish oil supplements.

Ice Natural Remedy

Ice works wonders. To use ice as an endometriosis treatment, apply ice to pelvic area for at least fifteen to twenty minutes. Repeat this several times a day as often as pain requires. The ice will relieve pain for a short time period. Often times, you can rotate ice and a heating pad for the greatest amount of pain relief.

Herbal Tea Natural Remedy

Teas like Chamomile or Ginger tea can bring instant relief. Often when you are in extreme pain, your body tends to tense. By drinking herbal teas, you are relaxing the body which will relax your pain. Drink herbal teas several times a day for the greatest amount of relief.

Pelvic Massage Natural Remedy

This massage can bring great relief on those months when you are hurting the most. Lie on the bed and stretch out the body. You want to apply essential oil onto your stomach and begin a rotating massage pattern. The oils help you massage easier. Start above your belly button and work your way clockwise around the body. Massage very gently. As you move around the stomach, you will notice tense areas. Gently massage. This massage should not hurt at any time. If it does hurt, stop and consult your doctor. This pelvic massage natural remedy is intended to relax and sooth minor pains associated with endometriosis.

Do not do this massage during menstrual cycle. Begin again after your menstrual cycle has ended. Doing the pelvic massage once a day can be a great relief to pain! If you turn on music while you are doing the massage, it will help create a relaxing atmosphere. This remedy might be for fertility, but it works great for endometriosis!!!!

What endometriosis cure works for you?

Note: Always consult with your doctor before beginning any home remedy. What works for one woman may have completely different results for another. Bottom line: home remedies are home remedies, ladies!

Infertility Myths Uncovered

Infertility Myths Uncovered

The Truth About Infertility

Infertility is that little word no woman wants to hear. It is the inability to conceive. Yikes, I’m already breaking out in sweats. I hate the word infertility because it suggests I can’t get pregnant which isn’t true. Each woman can and should get pregnant. It just takes time to figure out what is wrong and then fix it. Don’t be afraid to study you body because you can control your own destiny.
Infertility Affects Couples Around the World
Trying to conceive is that one topic that gets women talking in the strangest places. Whether you know the other person isn’t really the issue because there is a common bond: infertility. You look at this stranger as if you know them, because you do.You know the struggles, the pain and heartache that comes with infertility. You understand the doctor visits, the monthly crying sessions, and the heartache that comes every time you see a baby. You see, women dealing with infertility understand each other in a way that goes beyond the surface level. These women have endured and survived the most dreary of days and still persevere with the hope that they too will conceive. As every woman works her way through the journey of infertility, she will hear many myths and old wives tales about getting pregnant. You know what I’m talking about. You are talking to one woman, before you know it, there are five women surrounding you telling you the “best fertility tips” on getting pregnant. Do they work or are they just myths?
Acupuncture
Acupuncture has been used since the 1600s. Because there isn’t definite proof that it works, the question is whether it can and does help women trying to conceive. Each acupuncture treatment can last months but many women have seen positive results. I absolutely believe that acupuncture can assist when dealing with infertility.
Infertility Questions and Answers: A woman can only get pregnant one day in the cycle: Because the sperm can live up to 4-6 days, a woman can actually get pregnant up to 4-6 days prior to ovulation. This means you don’t want to just focus on the ovulation day when trying to conceive. Start trying at least 4-6 days before ovulation for best results. I like 6 days because it means more days of “love.”
Women ovulate more than once during cycle: Totally untrue. Women will only ovulate once during their cycle so you better make each cycle count! You can have more than one egg release but you only ovulate once. If it happens more than once, I want to know the hows’s and why’s, cause I want what ever you take. Lol
Women ovulate on the same day every month: Totally untrue. I mean, it can happen if your hormones are completely balanced, but it might not happen that way. Don’t we all wish it happened on the same day to make life easier? But it doesn’t so you better track your ovulation through an OV watch or some type of ovulation predictor. I usually get within 2 days every month.
Infertility isn’t a concern for older wome: Totally untrue. Times have changed and women are getting pregnant in their early and late 30 and 40’s. Remember when your mom said she wanted to have another baby and you were grossed out. Come on, mom, your in your late 30’s. Life has certainly changed. The truth is that fertility really begins to decline in your 20’s so by the time you’ve hit your prime, infertility could be an issue. This means women of all ages are concerned about infertility, whether you are younger or more in your prime.
Maybe you should adopt since you can’t get pregnant: This myth is totally unfounded. Every woman can and should get pregnant. When something is prohibiting the couple from conceiving, it’s time to start ruling out issues. Take a wide approach at your body and began to study you body to know what is healthy, what is struggling, and what you can improve. Fertility foods can be used to keep your body healthy and promote fertility. Don’t be afraid to change your lifestyle as you prepare for conception. These changes will help you keep your chin up on those dark days to remind you that you are taking control of your own destiny: your fertility.
Stop trying and you’ll get pregnant: This is a myth. For some women, this might have been the very thing that helped them get pregnant. Is it scientific or just nature having her way? There is no real answer. What we do know is if you take control of your fertility and really take care of your body and find the reason for infertility, you can raise your chances of getting pregnant. Whether you take a break or not, isn’t really the issue. For me, I’ve taken breaks more for myself than anything else. If you stop trying to get pregnant, make it about you and not the infertility. When you start back up, you will be rejuvenated and ready to start again! When you dive in to everything fertility, make sure to start eating Fertility Foods.
Infertility is about the women: This is a myth. Men can be affected by infertility just like women. That’s why both the man and woman should be tested.
Your doing something wrong: Infertility is a medical issue and doesn’t have anything to do with a sexual issue or disorder. If you are consistently trying to get pregnant, without success, begin studying your body to know what is healthy and what needs extra boosts of fertility foods and fertility vitamins. You might also think about going to a infertility specialist in your area.
Stay Positive: No matter how long you’ve tried to get pregnant, you’ve faced the uncertainties that come with infertility. Don’t be afraid to be emotional as emotions will be apart of this process. Stay connected with friends and family so you always know you aren’t alone. Most of all, remember that you and your spouse are in this together. Stress from infertility can become unbearable. Communicate and never go to bed angry. This has helped my husband and I throughout the infertility process and I’m sure it will help you as well!

Confessions of a Woman Struggling with Infertility

Infertility Stinks!

We hear of people struggling with infertility all the time. They can’t get pregnant. They’ve tried without success to have a baby. Maybe they just got married and thought pregnancy would naturally happen. When it didn’t, worry sets in. Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve been married for years and just decided the time was right. Only when you start trying, nothing happened. Or maybe you’ve been trying for years without success.Did you know that infertility dates back to the Bible with stories such as Hannah, Sarah, Elizabeth, and Rachel? These stories are reminders to each one struggling with infertility that they aren’t alone. Only women struggling with infertility know how alone it feels. That deep grief that won’t go away.

Learning to cope with infertility doesn’t happen overnight. It is a daily, hourly, and sometimes down to the minute before we can actually take a breath and breathe. Only someone who’s gone through the inability to conceive can possibly understand what this is like. Oh, I know, people think they understand, but you can’t. It simply isn’t possible.

Confessions from someone who knows…

Pregnant Women

They are everywhere. You know what I mean. Everywhere you turn there is a pregnant woman. They seem to be following us everywhere we go. They can’t understand that deep hollow we feel in the pit of our stomachs every time we see them.

The Timing isn’t right.

Ever heard that one? Or maybe something like this, “You just have to be patient.” Oh, how those words are a thorn to every woman struggling with infertility. Of course, we know to be patient. But then again, do you struggle with infertility? If not, don’t tell us about being patient because we could rewrite the definition of the word.

Babies, Babies, Babies

Where do all these babies come from? No matter how far we try to walk in the opposite direction, everyone we know seems to be getting pregnant. Could people please stop getting pregnant? “Thank you,” I say with relief.

If you just stop trying, you’ll get pregnant

Oh, how many times I’ve heard this. Don’t you think we’ve stopped trying just to see if this would work? Yeah, it doesn’t work. Thanks for your thoughts, but until you’ve experienced infertility; can you keep your unwanted wisdom to yourself?

Relax, you just need to relax!

Ever heard this one? If only we hadn’t thought of this. If it was just as simple as relaxing. As if a woman dealing with infertility hasn’t already researched ever possible method of getting pregnant and little did we know we just needed to relax.

Adoption is Your Answer!

This is one statement that is frequently said to couple struggling with infertility. As if we haven’t given adoption a serious consideration. Maybe you should consider the fact that we might not want to adopt, we want our own child. Or maybe we can’t afford to adopt. There could be many reasons why we haven’t adopted and none of them are because we haven’t considered the option of adopting.

Adoption for many is a last result that is an option that is possible. Even for these, the grief of not being able to conceive is a process that can only take time. Adoption is an option only the couple can decide if this choice is right for them.

You’re still Young!

I’m not that young and you don’t have a clue how, when, or if it will happen. Why are you giving me advice? Too many people think they are helping when they really don’t know what they are talking about. On subjects of infertility, people should understand that if we wanted to talk about it, we would.

Have you tried…?

This is the worst because people are assuming you haven’t already tried every possible method. Women struggling with infertility have done it all… and I mean all! The very question evokes frustration as we immediately think of every crazy thing we’ve ever done to get pregnant. Of course we tried… whatever you were going to suggest!

Each of us could list our own list of statements not to say to a woman dealing with infertility. The truth is that we know all too well the grief of not being able to conceive. We try crazy methods hoping that will be the one thing that gives that beautiful baby.

I hope that someone reads this and recognizes how desperately infertile women need others to have a little class when speaking to them. Think before you speak. Remember that not everyone can have children by snapping their fingers. Know that if she’s infertile, she’s tried everything. She is a pro at trying innovative positions to better help that little baby be created.

So thank you! Thank you for all your advice that you throw our way. Thank you for those seemingly helpful words of comfort you gave at the worst possible moments. May you remember when you’ve waited for something for years that hurt, grief, and frustration that we feel every day. Maybe then, you would understand what it is like to really struggle to conceive.